Help!

Yes, this is another sex question but I'm too uncomfortable to ask people I know. My husband and I have been married for almost 12 years. He is very loving, attracted to me, and helps around the house. I have never had a sex drive. I mean NEVER. I would rather do the dishes. It makes him feel so rejected. When it does happen, it's me forcing myself to. I've been to several doctors and one did find I had very low testosterone. He did give me a very small dose of a testosterone implant but it didn't help at all. He said there are too many risks for having a higher dose. Medically, everything else checks out (even my testosterone levels according to the blood work). I want sooooooooo badly to know what it feels like to "want" sex. Another problem is that he does have premature ejaculation. I've got, and I'm not exaggerating, maybe 30-60 seconds before he->you know. Everyone told us it would get better as he got older and we were married longer. Well, here it is almost 12 years later and no improvement. He has been to several doctors and they prescribe this and that (antidepressants, viagra, etc) but nothing has helped. The cream that decreases sensation helps a little but not much. Yes, I do orgasm but it takes a lot of work - he has to stimulate me until I'm almost to the point of climax. It's so boring to me now and it's more work that it is worth it. I've seen people talking about the need to spice things up but what do you do if you don't even have the desire to do that? I'm too afraid to google this topic out of fear of having crap show up on the computer. Help!!!!

Budget

I know that everyone's budgets are different, and there are a lot of tools out there to show me examples, but I want to know in real-life how much people spend on their mortgage. I'm just starting to budget and we're thinking of getting a house soon, so I need some help from people who actually do this stuff, rather than just a bunch of tables of suggestions. Here are my questions:

(1) What is your take-home pay?

(2) What is your mortgage?

(3) And most important---Is it working? Do you have money for little things that you just want, or are you always counting down days to payday? Can you avoid debt and still save for cars, or will you be stuck getting an auto loan next time you want/need a different car? Do you wish your mortgage was smaller?

And any other advice or tips you have would be great! I've read a few online articles and looked at some info on my bank's website, but I want to know what is REAL out there, and not just the ideal.

Law of Consecration vs Socialism

I just want to say up front that I'm a republican and will be voting for McCain. But, I'm currently studying Political Science and this last week we talked about socialism and communism. I couldn't help but see the similarities between the Law of Consecration and Socialism. I have heard the argument that socialism is basically communism like we see in China or the old USSR. That it is forced onto the citizens and they are not allowed to practice religion. But, in socialism religion is okay. And when we practiced the Law of Consecration members had to live it or be excommunicated. Plus, if we were to vote for Socialism, wouldn't that be the same. What I don't understand is how do we as a church profess to live such a liberal view and covenant to do so, yet be so set on a capitalistic society? What do others think?

Conserving Energy & Water

What do you do to conserve energy and water in your home? Any useful tips I can use in mine?

Stay at Home Mom

I'm a stay at home mom with three kids and I am totally miserable! Ever since I started staying home when my first son was born, I have been pretty unhappy. I loved having a job and getting out and working. But my husband has a great job that provides very well for our family and the church teaches that women are meant to be in the home. I'm starting to feel like a worse mom staying at home than if i were to go out and get a job. What should I do? I really want a job and to be a good mom but how can I reconcile that getting a job goes against what the Proclaimation for the Family tells me I should do?

Taxes are Punishment?

Disclaimer: I'm really just trying to understand why this is a belief.
I always thought of taxes like tithing. You just pay that certain percentage and it goes to pay for blessings you enjoy. Tithing pays for temples and church programs. Taxes pay for schools and roads i drive on. I've never had a problem, not even a second thought about taxes. They were just a part of life. But some one commented on a post earlier this week that increasing taxes on the wealthy is like punishing them for working hard and I guess I just don't understand. If we work hard and make more money, we pay more tithing. So why should taxes be anything different? They are essentially the same thing as tithing. Why are taxes such a punishment? Is tithing a punishment too?

Gospel Principles

I'm teaching the Gospel Principles class in my ward. I only have a few members in the class besides the missionaries and one of them was just recently baptised. I'm trying to make their transition into the new world of the church easier and was looking for ideas on how to do that? What information would be most useful to a new member of the church?

GET IT OUT (part two)

I loved the post about venting our frustrations. It was comforting to know that I'm not the only one trying to get pregnant and that others have messy homes! My grandma always says for every thing you vent about you should list five things your grateful for. So let's go! What are you grateful for?!?!

Halloween dinner!

What do some of you do for dinner for halloween? We don't have any traditions but I want to do something fun. Dinner in a Pumpkin? Chili and cornbread? Cider and pumpkin cookies for dessert? I need a yummy new idea or recipe for dinner and maybe even dessert, too! Thanks.

Female Problems...

I'm sorry to ask about this, but I need to talk to someone! My husband and I have been trying to get pregnant. I haven't had a period in almost 70 days. However, I've taken 3 pregnancy tests, and all have been negative. My question is, when is my period going to come? Have any of you had crazy cycles like that? My cycles are usually long (about 35-40 days) but NEVER this long! I had a baby about a year and a half ago and since then, my period has been irregular. Here's another strange thing to add to the mix. (Men and youngsters who may be reading--avert your eyes!) I thought I was getting my period because when I would wipe, I'd get the faintest tinge of red. It's happened a couple of times in the last 3 days. But the bleeding never continues. I don't even need a pad. Has this happened to anyone? What's the deal?

Should I Tell Him?

My husband has an old email address that he used to use in high school and the first few years of college that he now only uses as a spam account (like if a website requires an email address). He knows that I know the password to it and sometimes check it to see if any family members have sent things there (they haven't quite updated their address books yet). I'm rarely on there for more than a few minutes so I've never taken the time to look at most the things in it but the other day I noticed a folder with his old girlfriend's name on it. So curiously I opened it and read the most recent email. He got it after we'd been dating about a month and he'd been broken up with her for over a year.
At the bottom of her letter what he'd written here was still there because she's replied without erasing it. He told her that he was sorry for hanging out with her and then having a girlfriend the next day (me) and that even though the timing wasn't right for them he'd always love her. Her reply said basically the same thing, she missed him and was sorry that they couldn't get back together. He told me he loved me for the first time a few weeks after he told her that he'd always love her.
If it'd been sent before we got together this probably wouldn't bother me especially since he no longer has any contact with her. But I can't help but be a little bothered that he told her he'd always love her weeks before telling me that he loved me. Keep in mind that we are married now and this all happened over three years ago. I know that he loves me and (now) has no feelings for her. Should I tell him that I read the email? I kind of want to ask him why he said that to her but it was so long ago that I wonder if I shouldn't just drop it. What do you think?

INTERNATIONAL TRAVEL

I am traveling to Europe next month and it will be my first time out of the country. I am slightly anxious about the 16 hour flight and was wondering if anyone had any suggestions for the plane ride and how to make the time go by.
Also, does anyone have any suggestions for Europe travel in general? Things to bring, things to prepare for, etc? Like I said, I grew up in Colorado and have never been ANYWHERE except for the west coast. ANY SUGGESTIONS WILL BE APPRECIATED!!! Thanks!

Get it out

I am feeling very frustrated with politics and cleaning my house and...everything. Any one else want to vent? What are you frustrated with?

Opportunity?

I noticed a thread on one of the other posts and thought i would post it here. Some of you feel that others on this blog are searching for opportunities to criticize the LDS Church. I personally like the ongoing debate on LDS Policies, as i'm LDS and they make me think about what it is I believe and give me the chance to stand up for it. It has really strengthened my testimony as i have had to consider things others are debating or in conflict about and confirm to myself the things i believe. What do you think?

Getting Tired

I know election day is only a few days away, but I am SO SICK of politics. It's all I ever hear, all we ever talk about. I CAN'T wait until election day is over. Any body else with me?

Sin and Lose Your Job?

Byu-I recently came out with a letter, stating that it would require all employees to maintain a temple recommend. Big deal right? They also stated that if, for any reason a person committed a sin where they would perhaps have their recommend suspended or revoked they would also be terminated. I feel pretty saddened, because people can repent and make things right. But losing their job? How can that be ok?

Seminary Lessons

I was just going through my old set of seminary scriptures and i was wondering if any of you had some cool seminary experiences or lessons that made a major impact on your life?

Trust Issues

Hello. I am 14 years old and have been for several months. I got my first kiss the day before my 14th birthday and havent had one since. My mother found out and is now putting extreme restrictions on everything i do. I understand that she is just worried about me but i feel like their is no trust in our relationship anymore. I dont do anything wrong when im with my friends but she is sure that things are going on. I have tried time and time again to tell her that i am a good kid and dont do bad things but she has taken it to extreme measures. Im so sick of just trying to be with my girlfriends and having to leave because she is sure that boys are there or something may happen. I want her trust back and dont know how to get it. This may seem petty to some people but it is very important to me. Any ideas on how to earn her trust back?
Thanks.

War in Iraq

I'm just curious, since politics are on my mind (and from looking at previous posts are on the minds of others), What you think of the War in Iraq? Are we winning anything? Should we just pull out?

Potty Training?

My husband and I are thinking about getting a dog, but we live in an apartment and I'm worried about house breaking it. Does any body have any advice for how to do this? What's the best, most effective way?

Signatures on posts

I've seen people sign each blog post with a cute little signature. I've created a signature for myself, even have the html code for it, but can't figure out how to get them to appear at the bottom of EACH post. I got it to appear in the sidebar, at the very bottom of the page, but I want it to be at the end of each individual post. Can anyone help me?

Thank you! I love this blog!

On a Lighter Note

What are 5 things you would do if you were a millionaire?

Just a Reminder

There are some pretty hot topics up for discussion and I know that we all can get a little fired up. Let's remember as we're discussing them to respect each other. Debating each other's arguments is clearly a part of discussion but insulting the person behind them is over the line. Let's all just remember to take a breath and respect each other.
That said, the discussions have been very interesting so far and I wanted to personally thank all of you for your participation. It's nice to see the different sides of every issue and understand what others have learned from their own experiences. There has been some great advice and opinions given.
Thanks!

Previous Poster

I don't know if anyone remembers me, but I posted a while back about my dad getting remarried shortly after my mom died. I felt like I got good advice back then, so I'd like to ask another question.
My dad just got remarried and is really pushing for my siblings and I to always "get together" and do stuff with his new wife. 1) We don't feel ready for that and 2) we have NO desire to regularly do stuff with her. It's truly nothing against her, but we just don't want to. It's hard on us and we feel sad and sick everytime we do. Since I'm the oldest ( I'm 20 and have three younger siblings) I feel like it's my place to talk to my dad about it. He just gets mad or sad whenever I tell him that we don't want to be with her on a regular basis. I try to explain that it's nothing personal, it's just a difficult situation. He thinks that we aren't being "Christlike" or "accepting" of her, but it's not her at all. It's just hard to see your dad with a new woman when all you can think about is how much you miss your mom.
I need ideas or suggestions on how to talk to him because it's gotten to the point where I avoid him at all costs (same with my siblings.) Any experiences or advice would be really helpful.

I'll be honest

I'll be honest, I don't follow politics as much as I should and I was taken aback by all these posts regarding Prop 8. I'm LDS and it is true that the church is actively campaigning against gay marriage? I realize that we don't agree with marriage between same genders, but what exactly are we doing to campaign? Where can I find "cold hard" facts about what the church is doing?

Economy

We are officially in a recession, what is going to happen? And what are you doing to prepare for the worst?

Palmyra

My husband and I are going to Palmyra for the weekend and I was wondering if there were any cool sites (besides the obvious ones) that you guys have been to there?

Prop. 8

I am a student at BYU and I am from CA. Today in one of my classes, I was talking to a friend (who is also from CA) and she said that the MTC call center is calling CA residents and talking to them about Prop. 8. I was also talking to my mom who lives in CA and she said they have been asked to knock doors and call people to talk to them about Prop. 8 and eduacate the citizens as much as they can. What do you think of these issues? Is this ethical?

Hand Washables

I have a couple of sweaters that are dirty that are hand wash only. To be honest, I've never really hand washed anything (other than bras) so I was wondering what y'all think I should do. I was thinking maybe finding a laundromat that has front load washers with a hand wash setting. Any tips?

Headers????

I am trying to add family picture as my header and its not working. I have a photobucket account but every time I copy the code for the picture and go to paste it in the URL spot it says its invalid. Or I have tried a different way and it is HUGE. I just want a cute header HELP...how do you do it???

Depressed?

I was blog hopping through some mormon blogs and found an article that talked about a study that found that Utah has one of the highest rates of depression in the country. (Idaho was in the top ten) It found that women are twice as likely as men to be depressed and about how it's believed our mormon culture that emphasizes perfection, conformity and has an undercurrent of competition is responsible at least in part for this depression. I can agree that perhaps our culture is in fact a major factor in the illness that sweeps through the state and our religion as a whole. Just wondering what the rest of you thought, if any of you are depressed and what you do to help?

Prop. 8

Just wondering what every one thinks of Prop. 8 and the campaigning the LDS church has been doing for it?

Food Storage and Supplies?

I have been trying to get caught up on my food storage lately and I just have a couple questions...Where can I get the rice, flour, wheat, etc. (things that can get weavles and go bad) in the tin cans? The cans last up to 10 years right? I have heard that I need to go to the cannery but when I called they only told me about soup and that I would only be able to buy a couple cases. I want to get A LOT so that won't work. Does anyone know where I can find these and the recommendations for one adult for one years worth? Also, what other kids of supplies should I have? First aid, Water filters, Flash ligths, etc.??? Thanks so much! I appreciate it!

Halloween Ideas?

I am having an adult Halloween party and was just wondering if anyone had ideas of any fun Halloween games, cool costume ideas, food, etc. Thanks!!

Ugh!

My daughter came home from Young Women's on Sunday very upset. When my husband and I asked her what was wrong she told us that during the Beehive's lesson on Sunday her advisor had taught them that once young men had made a mistake or sinned they were no longer worthy of serving a mission. She also told them that young women are not allowed to get married in the temple had they sinned at any time. She was deeply hurt by this and had tried to ask the advisor about repentance. Apparently, the advisor told her that repentance couldn't make them worthy again! I was completely disgusted and I have been raging for the past two days trying to figure out what I should do. My husband and I reassured my daughter that this advisor was in fact mistaken and that repentance can make young men and women, any one worthy of going on missions or getting married in the temple. But what am i supposed to do about a woman who is obviously not teaching doctrine? I'm very unsettled that this is what my daughter is being taught during church. What should I do?

Christmas Gift Ideas

I know its a little early but I like to get a head start on my Christmas shopping. We are buying for my sister and in-law and her hubby this year but I am stumped on ideas. Anyone have any good gifts for a couple that is relatively inexpensive? I would like to stay away from restaurant/movie gift cards just because its lame!

Blog Design Question

Have you guys ever bought anything from the Shabby Shoppe? It's the place where the administrator got the header for this page (which is so cute). I wanna get some of their blogwear which is a header and little labels for your sidebar but I'm not sure of how to put it up. I know how to put up the header and change my background pages and stuff, but how do you put words in the header and the little tabs that they give you for your sidebar? Do I need photoshop or some sort of digital scrapbook program to use their stuff?

A Public Thank You

I just want to thank the administrator of this blog for how awesome it is and all the work she puts into it! I was sad when the original Ask Anything Blog was abandoned because people were being catty. This blog is even better than the original! The question of the week and other fun things you are doing are so ... well, fun! Also, readers on this blog are a lot more respectful on this one; I haven't seen any attitude! Definitely passionate opinions, but always respect of others. If y'all don't know, there's another ask anything blog and it's not nearly as good as this one: the administrator moderates everything! You have to email her your questions and she approves the comments! Thank you ask-any-thing administrator for allowing us to keep our anonymity! And thanks to all you ladies (and gentlemen, maybe?) for being so awesome! I love this blog!

Breast Augmentation??

I am thinking about having a breast augmentation surgery soon. I am about an A cup in one breast and even smaller in the other, very unhappy. I'm needing any advice good or bad from those of you who have done this procedure: recommended Dr.'s to see OR not to see in the Salt Lake/Utah county area?? Saline or Silicone?? Before kids or wait until finished having kids?? Has it effected anyone who workout regularly as far as running/lifting?? Any advice would be much appreciated!

A Stinky Situation

A few days ago, my 13 month son spilled probably about 1/4 cup amount of milk on his bedroom carpet. My husband *thought* he cleaned it up well, but the next evening I went into my son's room and it STUNK like sour milk. We tried opening the window and turning on a fan to air it out, and that didn't get rid of it. We bought "Resolve" carpet cleaning spray and have done two different treatments with that, but my son's room still stinks. It's unbearable to even go in his room and we have to keep the door shut all the time or it stinks up the rest of the house.
I figured that some of you moms out there have probably dealt with spilled milk before. Any suggestions?? Our carpet is a semi-shag so I don't know if that's why it is worse...But please, someone help me!

Beauty Secrets

I am always looking for cheap beauty secrets! Does anyone have some to share? Anything from hair, to face, to nails, shaving, to keeping fit. I'm just looking for anything to give me a boost! Thanks!

Moisturizer

I have never had pimples in my life (I'm 23) until a year ago when I moved to a new state. My face is dry and peeling after I wash it and then really oily by night. I think it over produces oil because of it's dryness in the morning, causing me to get zits like crazy! I've tried everything to make them go away and nothing is working. I even got proactiv and it didn't help. I can't seem to find a moisturizer that is REALLY moisturizing but doesn't contain oil that clogs my pores. I usually use the kind clean and clear makes, just from Wal Mart and it was fine until now. I'll try anything, I don't just have a few zits. It's like mountains on my forehead and around my mouth and they hurt. I don't even want to kiss my husband because I don't want the zits to touch him. That might seem dumb but if you've ever had acne you'd understand. So if any of you know of a moisturizer that is really good but doesn't contain oil or sunscreen (sunscreen gives me a rash for some reason when I use it daily on my face, even the ones that say for sensitive skin) please let me know!

Some Changes

Hey y'all! How's your week going? You'll see as you look around the blog that I've made a few new changes.

First, I FINALLY changed the layout and I'm so glad because I was getting so sick of the old one. Thanks to Shabby Shoppe for the BlogWear. It's super cute and pretty inexpensive.

Second, I added a Question of the Week. I have been so AMAZED by all of you who contribute to this blog. You guys are giving such great advice, have so many great opinions and are soo incredibly smart! I thought it would be fun to add a place where we could discuss a particular issue and the different ideas we all have about it. I thought we'd try it. If you have a question that you are interested in posting as a question of the week, just let me know, either by commenting or by dropping me an email at aaskanythingblog@yahoo.com.

Third, as I blog stalk through my own family and friends' blogs I find so many other blogs that are amazing resources. They either give me a new idea for my family or stretch my mind to think in a new way. I have found blogs on everything from grocery shopping for $50 a week to decorating my home in new innovative ways to commentaries on the hilarious moments in life. And even though I don't know any of you personally, from your comments I have to believe that many of you are a part of this incredibly creative community. So, I wanted to add a link list to the left for some of these blogs. If you have a blog that would fit into this category or just frequent one let me know, I'd love to add it to the list.

Thanks and have a great week!

Speech

My son is 16 months old. He doesn't really say much. My question is, how much should a child be saying at 16 months and do any of you have children who needed speech therapists? If so, how old was your child when he/she started getting therapy and what was the therapy like?

Thanks!

Why?

My heart is broken. I miscarried our first child at a little over 4 months. My husband is in the army and a few days before his contract was scheduled to end his unit got orders to deploy to Iraq. So they stoplossed him and instead of leaving the army and going on with our lives, we are going to go through ANOTHER deployment. I feel completely devastated and I don't know what to do or believe any more. I'm LDS and some times I just feel like God has abandoned me. How in the hell am I supposed to keep going when life just seems to keep dumping more on me?

pregnancy Workout Videos

I am 8 weeks with # 2 and I vow to stay in the somewhat shape I am in...(keep some muscle tone) now that winter is coming it isnt as easy to go outside and exercise cant afford a gym pass either so im looking for a video or two I can do. Anyone used any they liked that werent super cheesy and that they saw results with?

Cleaners

I'm looking for the following types of cleaners in the Utah County area.
Can anyone give me some recommendations?

-Blinds
-Carpet
-Vents

Thanks!

Beware - GROSS personal question

This is pretty personal and gross so don't read on if you mind that sort of stuff.

For the past few months I've been having a weird brownish discharge between my periods. I've never had anything like that happen before and I'm not sure if it's normal or if I should go to the doc. It isn't very much, a light day can control it and keep it from staining my underwear. It isn't the entire time between my period, just like a week before and a week after. I'm hesitant to go to the doc because for all I know it's completely normal and we don't have health insurance right now and can't really afford it. I'm a little nervous though because what if it's something bad? Has this ever happened to any of you?

Siblings

After my first child my husband and I swore we would never have another (although we love our little girl with all our hearts) it was just a lot harder than we anticipated. Now that she is older (14 months) we are considering having another baby because it seems like the sibling thing is really important (we both have siblings). So my question is, how much harder is it with 2 kids? I know it sounds silly, but is it worth it? What seems to be the best age spacing? I just look back at how hard those first months are and wonder if I really want to do it again. thoughts?

Pregnancy Symptoms

My husband and I are trying to get pregnant. I've had a baby, but I can't seem to remember anything about being pregnant. Here's my question. How soon do you start to feel the symptoms of being pregnant? I remember that last time my breasts were a bit tender and I would feel a little sick if I got too hungry. I just don't remember if I immediately felt that way or not. Can you help?

Shaving

I shave my entire "binkini area" and I constantly get those little red irratation bumps. Sometimes they look like little zits. I don't have enough money to always get a brazilian wax or laser hair removal, so I was wondering if any of yall have some beauty tips on how to make that area smooth. (I've tried lotion and it doesn't seem to make a difference.)

Sincerely

((I don't want to start a "catfight" on this question. I am truly interested in what you think. Please no harsh comments, just thoughts. ))
I SINCERELY want to know what your opinion is on something. I'm looking for LDS views as it has to do with LDS doctorine. My cousin passed away a few months ago after a battle with cancer. Her husband (who she is sealed too) is already engaged to a new person and they are getting married in the temple. Now I KNOW that it is allowed for a man to be sealed to more than one woman, but MY opinion is that it is an EXCEPTION to the rule, not the rule. (Does that make sense?) No where in the scriptures does it say that a man SHOULD or MUST be sealed to more than one woman.

What are your thoughts and opinions on this? Thanks for commenting!

Picture links

Could you please tell me how to make a link on a picture in a blog? I'm sure it can't be too hard, but I just can't figure it out! Thanks!

Not a question...just funny.

Sorry I know this blog is just for questions, but this one almost was.

My husband and I got new sheets for our king sized bed and I was SO frustrated because they would not stay in place that I almost posted the situation here for advice.

Then we decided to rotate the sheets 1/4 turn.
Now they fit perfectly, who knew there was a top and bottom?

Trust

Have you ever been in a situation where a loved one betrayed your trust? How did you recover from that and rebuild your relationship? How do you learn to trust someone again that has lied to you?

I'm Pregnant!

So I just found out today that I'm pregnant. I had to tell someone - so here I am. I'm so excited and can't wait to start telling my friends and family, but I also don't want to jinx myself. I've had a couple friends who started telling people as soon as they found out only to have a miscarriage a few weeks later, and then have to go through it all again and tell everyone that they had lost the baby. So my question is when did you start telling people the happy news? Also when did you tell your boss and how did that go? Thanks ladies!

VP?

I was watching the debate between Palin & Biden yesterday and I wasn't really impressed with either of the VP Canidates. I was just wondering what every one else thought about them/it.

How do you do it?

I am a stay at home mom to one baby boy, which I'm sure sounds pretty simple to a lot of people. But I am having trouble juggling all my responsibilities! I can't seem to be able to keep my apartment clean, the laundry done, the baby fed & happy, do my church calling, and manage to shower and get ready every day. I know some people will probably just tell me to let things go - but I can't do that. Having a clean, organized home makes all the difference in my mood and motivation. Before I had a baby my house was spotless and perfectly organized, but now he makes little messes everywhere he goes, and I just feel like my life is spinning out of control! As soon as I get one thing done, there are 10 more things to do. I have stayed up until 2 in the morning for the past two nights, just trying to get things done. I'm exhausted! What do some of you other stay at home mom's do to stay on top of all your responsibilities? I'm stressing out here!

Positions

My husband and I have been married for a while and we haven't really had any trouble in the bedroom but it seems a little lacking in something. We talked about it and we decided that we needed to try some different positions. The problem being that we don't really know of any. It sounds so juvenile to not know of any but we were both virgins when we got married, we don't watch porn (nor do we want to), we definitely don't want to google it (as more porn would come up), and asking friends and family is so embarrassing and NOT going to happen. So help someone!! We want to try something new but don't know what to do. Nothing kinky, just something different. Thanks!

Spice'n Up Marriage

Lately it seems like my husband isn't very interested in sex. He's a fabulous husband and I have no complaints about our relationship whatsoever, but it kind of seems like the stereotype rolls of the woman not wanting sex and the man always wanting it are switched here. I know he's stressed at work and tired but we've been married for a while and stress with school and work is nothing new but it only seemed to start bothering him recently. Even when I put lingerie and try to seduce him, nothing. It's not like we NEVER have sex, but I do feel a little unattractive and unwanted when he rejects me. I have voiced my feelings about this with him and he says that it has nothing to do with me, he just isn't 21 anymore and has less of a sex drive and that there's more pressure on him now than there ever was then. He is still cuddly and holds my hand and kisses me, but sometimes I just wanna get it on! Sorry. I feel like I'm the only woman in the world with this problem, and I just want to know if anyone has any tips on spicing things up in the bedroom. Besides the lingerie because I've tried that. I miss the days when he couldn't keep his hands off me! I know it isn't going to be like that forever but I still need SOMETHING! HELP!